Life’s Stressors

Life is such a challenge.  It’s is filled with all kinds of obstacles and challenges as well as joy and happiness.  Everything from a wedding, to the birth of a child, to the loss of a loved one bring about change.  Obviously those that are pleasant are met with arms wide open, but those that are consider unpleasant like death are not as well received.   Whether a good life event or a bad one, they all have one major thing in common: STRESS!  Ask anyone that’s gotten married if planning the wedding and the day of the wedding are stressful and you will get a resounding YES.  Ask a woman in labor if it’s stressful and the answer will be YES.  Lastly, ask someone who’s loved one has passed away if it’s a stressful time and you’ll probably be asked to leave or be picking yourself up off the ground.  Because it is a very stressful time.

 

 

Planning

It is an interesting thing planning.  If you ask someone to get married, in most cases plans for the ‘Big Day’ will be made for months if not years in advance.  For the simple reason that you want your wedding day to be as perfect as it possibly can.  You want things to run smoothly.  If you’re the bride, you want your wedding dress to be as perfect and can be and you want to make your groom proud that you are going to be his in just a few minutes.

The same attention to detail is never given to the day of one’s departure.   Why?  Well that can be debated, but there’s no doubt that a good portion of the reason is because we never want to think about it ahead of time.  It’s something that will happen somewhere down the road, and it’s an unpleasant thought at best.  We don’t want to make wills out, plan for estate sales, trust or probate.  Death is just unpleasant!

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Alleviating Stress

One of the reasons that weddings are less stressful than funerals is because they are planned well ahead of time.  If you were to try and make all of the arraignments the day of your wedding, well it just wouldn’t happen.  Why?  Because there’s just to much to do.  The same is true for funerals.  There are all kinds of arraignments that need to be done from notifications of family and friends to where the funeral is going to be held at.  If by some chance you’re a surviving family member and a house needs to go into probate, the stress is even more intents.  Consider that you don’t have to wait for the death to handle a large chunk of what needs to be done.

Probate, Wills And Trusts!

Probates, wills and trusts are several things that you can get done well before they are needed.  Also hiring a lawyer to make sure these things are executed well before they’re needed.  When you do just these few things, then much of the work is done as well as much of the stress that you have will be alleviated.  You can also have all of your funeral arraignments made and paid for ahead of time.  There by having one more stress removed for your family.  It’s not easy, death and passing never are.  But why not do what you can do before it has to be done or you have to do it?

 

When You Lose Someone

When someone you love dies, it’s just about the hardest time in your life.  You are hit with everything at once and everyone wants paperwork.  There are a thousand decisions that need to be made and made all at once.  It’s not like any of them can wait.  The closing of their social security care, making funeral arraignments, contacting friends and family and a pastor.  The list is extensive and its all in the midst of a tornado and you’re supposed to mourn and be able to function all at once.  To continue to work and carry on life, with the new normal that it’s become.

 

The Beginning

So where do you begin when you’re hit with everything at once?  Delegate!  That’s right, wherever and whenever you can delegate what you don’t have to absolutely do.  There are some things that will need your signature and proof of your loved ones passing.  But outside of that, you need to delegate everything that your hands don’t have to handle.  For example, you don’t have to handle the estate.  There are company’s that are designed to handle estates when someone’s lost.  Probate We Make It Simple is one company that can help in this area.

 

 

Probate We Make It Simple

Is a company that’s designed to come in along the side of you and take care of all the challenges that come with the estate of someone that’s passed.  It’s not just about selling the house.  Which is one of the most common misconceptions about probate, there’s a lot more than that which needs to be done.  For example, did you know that there’s paperwork that needs to be filed with Washington D.C.?  Well there is, and it’s one of the things that if you don’t know where to go to, you don’t want to have to jump through hoops when you have other things to worry about.

Do you know if your loved one has debts that need to be paid?  This can be anything from credit cards to student loans.  All of which need to be taken care of either by you, another family  member or the estate sale.  Few of us actually owe nothing to know one, so as much as possible needs to be taken care of after the person dies, with what they leave behind.

Do you know the value of everything that your loved one has?  If not, you’re going to need to have an appraiser come in and then try and sell it.  It’s another one of the areas, that makes having a probate ‘office’ to handle the estate.  It’s why delegation can make things easier for you.  It allows for you to keep and make the main thing the main thing!

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That’s Not Me!

If you haven’t had to deal with a loved one passing, you will have to, so be informed ahead of time.  When someone dies isn’t the time to figure out what you need to do and how to do it.  Your mind will be overloaded and you will be overwhelmed.  Which makes finding out things before hand priceless.  You may not want to deal with it, but you will be happy that you did when your time comes.